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Nice that you decided to visit this website and enjoy reading!

Because it is not easy to write about subjects shall which we edit at these pages I try to explain the question of what led me to create this site!?

I, as the author am now nearly fifty and take me the right to claim sufficient life experience to write about of this pages, but also enough experience have collected other people with council to help to cope with the various situations in life. Also and not less important there is the fact that this page offers very many answers and this is very often a crucial detail because I was many times in my life in the situation there no answers was but with many questions.

On the one hand we have situations which make us almost impossible challenges and on the other hand the fact that we have to resolve any situation, we “must”!

My experience shows that everything is possible and there is no situation for which no solution would be!

After most people with the “simplest” situations difficulties have it is most important to learn to handle the situations. Therefore is it necessary that we understand that we have to do with new situations or with new circumstances. Each situation is solvable, if we only have the will about the solution to search.

This knowledge is the reason why I have decided about my experiences to write and thus the reason for this page.

Because of the understanding  I will describe here only some of my experiences.

Now, after my parents decided to look for better life in another country I was “forced” to live in a foreign country and grow up there. It is for the understanding unimportant where exactly. It should suffice for now that I have spent much of my previous life in the western part of europe. But there were huge differences in the peasant and 70-ies. In much was different then in my new “homeland” then in my home-country! I had to learn a new language, tie me to the people, to the environment and to live at that way. This is a process which takes a while. One young people needs longer because a young human being takes longer to understand. A young person need to understand from this although and to adopt one duration time. This brings in terms of the understanding of the teenager some interesting situations during the time with it.

Children and young people can do very much suffering and pain to other kids.

This was at the same time the start of my learning process. The person learns in principle very fast and very intensive if it hurts. Because in my childhood and youth very often I was hurt, it was necessary to do anything. I was forced looking about ways and means to find situations that prepared me pain from the way to go or to prevent and/or to find solutions.

Interesting is that I’ve always found a way. Some of theme was even in the short term harder but, in the long term it led to the target. Sometimes it was necessary the “enemy” to the friend to make.

As I at the age of 13/14 years was, my mother was going to be very ill. Finally, she died after a few years when I was at the age of something over 16 years. This was one key situation because I lost not only my mother but also the link of our family. I lost the support and stability. The shoulder when I was sad! My family broke and a little less then one year later with little more than 17 y.  I decided to make me on my own feet. I was looking for some apartment and moved out from my father’s apartment.

Here I would like to make clear that this decision had nothing to do with my father. Finally broke the world for him too. He loose his wife and this resulted in many difficulties. I was partially without understanding what prepared additional difficulties because I was young and very lively. But, the remove decision I have taken alone. It was my own decision! This moment  I took the responsibility for my life, but didn’t understand what these really mean. At this time I was in the third class of vocational school. Due to the changes I was no longer in a position to do everything on schedule and it came like as it had to come. It comes to stop of my training. It was no more possible to go in the school because I needed a job to pay my apartment and all the other costs.

Now, of course we can go in this situation and begin to cry, moaning or be pity. Just, does it help?

I am saying; no!

It helps not and I have not done this. I made me on my way solutions to find.

It came into very turbulent times and brought new challenges every day.

A man in the age of just 18 years in a foreign country where still have enormous  bias, with no school and no other significant knowledge or capabilities have not easy life.

Alone these facts are sufficient to make it understandable that it was not easy.

We count it facts have added that I during the past decades am moved 17 times, a failed marriage behind me was that I total four times completely went into bankruptcy or broke and some precipitation have behind me, make clear that my life brought enough events to gain sufficient experience. However, this events brought me to ask me, why all this happens? All this has a reason? Or, everything happens purely by chance?

My view is; there is no coincidence! Never!

Everything in life what happens, happens with any reason. Without exception! It is however very difficult to detect the reason in that moment it happened. About this later in some other chapter.

Each here enumerated situation alone is a disaster. Take we this all together, I should knows what do but, I have all situations such as whatever mastered and solutions found. I would also can place in each of the listed situation or me bias or others responsible for making or, or, or…! Similarly I would access to the bottle or other means to me even over my life to create a dense fog. And of course also I asked the question, “why”?

Of course! But, never in the sense of “why me”, “why always me”?

The events have rather moved me to ask why all this actually happens! What is the reason behind?!

I started to look after the sense to find. To read literature about all possible subjects and to make me my opinion, my principles course time created standpoints, world view. The result of the last decades is this website.

This front page just have to show and explain the experience which is the base that  I  have decided to create this page.

Where it is equally important, everyone has his own experiences to mention that it just as important is how we handle with the emerging situations and what conclusions we draw from the experience. What we learning from the incurred situation. Here I am on the claim, that I have the right conclusions drawn and have learned something from every situation. To the own experience I mentioned was literature to help, also literature from all possible to conclusions from it certain to come. Also I take every opportunity in conversation with other people used to learn and to build my knowledge and my experiences also to understand.

The most important conclusions for me; it is possible that everything when I am only willing to fight and there is a situation which is hopeless! If I have just the will to look after the solution. Am I strong in my will enough will I also find solution.

This includes of course, willing to go unconventional ways. Not always easiest way to find and not always do what most, others like. Most importantly to understand is that it is to important and necessary not wait for miracle! Until we even not are active, nothing will happen. Finally, it is my solution or solving my situation. So, it must be also my way to find the solution. Here is also very clear that every one of us otherwise react in similar situation. Each of us in similar situation go another way.

Also more of elsewhere.

To cope with particularly  and difficult situations, we need very much strength, will, perseverance, confidence. Most importantly, we must know that it for each situation without exception is a solution. Do not believe, we need to know.

The belief in our self and our strength is of great help, our belief is that cherry on the “i”!

To believe too can and/or this really knowing it is a huge difference hide!

These topics I do however edit in individual areas and would not go closer on each. Here should be made only understand what the reason was and what I justified my decision to this Web site.

Even I could here much more write, I assume that the above listed events and experience as the basis for this page sufficient and it is comprehensible and clear, that my life experience justifies this page.

Also I would like to clearly to express that our experience, our conclusions or lessons from them and therefore the result nothing with the respective education; not at all, even training has to do as well as the status of society.

We must not necessarily have a university degree to have certain knowledge or title the name. This I have equally clearly, that I not here contend that the education or training has no influence or is unimportant. In the contrary! I am simply saying that someone without diploma as much can be achieved as without. It is only with a diploma much easier. This is why I think here further education not also said. For me it makes no difference. These topics are processed in other categories as well as; “Everyday life; personal development; confidence; how to…” etc. And of course, finally you can send your request via question to me and I will answer you. The purpose of this page is to help people solutions to find even if the situation is approximately impossible or quietly very complicated. I have such mass behind me. These pages are the result of my experience and my knowledge.