Emotional power
Did you ever found yourself in the situation that you had the feeling, that you not listening? Or you yourself something not quite understands?
One of the difficulties of our society today is listening! There is really no one listening to the other! Therefore situations happen often that both think the same and still comes to the misunderstanding! Because none of the others really listens! Everyone wants only to hear his voice, there is no matter what the other thinks, says or talk! Me, me, me and still I! Not long ago, there was a interview between my wife and a slightly higher positioned person when the tax authority! He invited my wife to a discussion regarding cooperation! After the first words of welcome and of knowledge were exchanged, had he left his assistant discussion head of official agency! This was because this area to the area of assistant as much in order fell. The interesting was that the lady came in principle thereof that my wife had asked for this discussion. Nevertheless many times out pointed and repeated several times that her boss to this conversation inviting the lady was not prepared this but accept as fact to throb continues in this discussion, that my wife this conversation would have wanted! Now even if the chief confirmed this, to the lady was not easy to change beginning of discussion. Of course this conversation ended without having had a real meaning and of course without decision! It was namely that my wife this cooperation even not wanted and more respect and correction awareness this talk was. The lady wanted my wife nor in that department! Consequently, both had the same in the sense and yet none came matching on! Means; both think the same, think the same want the same but….the limps understanding from lack of emotional competence! The listening!
As I after a while came together with this man, the conversation came back of course the earlier described situation back. It was the question of, why the cooperation was not able? My answer was, “from lack of professionalism” “and expertise of the women they headed the talk”! After I my friend the situation was further described, he came from the wonder and had quake not out! He could not really believe and we kept it.
This situation I noticed here as an example, because she things us at least two (2) very clearly showing!
On the one which fact that people rarely have a real dialogue and the second we very often have people on lines in our society or experience, not in a position to this position meet. This in turn has some reasons. It is very often the case that people get a specific position because they “are acceptable” or politically same meaning! Very rarely people on lines from conventional reasons because they are competent! This plays the training or the knowledge no role at all. Secondly, it is often the case that the person responsible is not enough expertise to the capabilities to see of others! Again an example; some time ago I needed some employee and I wrote it out in the newspaper and I received very many applications. It came very many interesting people and one I would like to take one of them for example: a young lady, at the age of 24 years was due to the curriculum vitae and the application to the conversation. In the application level, it is the young lady in position two foreign languages “to use” passive “spoken and written.” Because I do not wholly understand what they meant it, I asked them simply what use this passive should mean verbal and written. The answer was, could use in communication these languages and writes the minimum. So I asked the lady in english whether she could introduce in english! This replied with “Yes”! Then I ask in english to do what she replied, what she didn’t do because she didn’t have quite understood my question! Therefore, the set so please do it “has not quite” understood! But the sentence, are you able to introduce yourself “had allegedly” understood! I doubt this today! The point of this situation is precisely which that people very often with the knowledge pretend, which they do not have and also often nobody which test this is on the other hand and/or really can check. So the logical conclusion that it very often happens is that people on lines come the neither the knowledge have yet these are honest enough to admit. I am saying here of course not, that it is everywhere and that there would be no exceptions. Of course there are companies and companies where everything works as it should be! And of course there are undertakings which is led by people with knowledge and awareness as well as to the policies of emotional competencies. And of course there are companies where very much value on competencies at all, but also the emotional competencies will be encouraged. At the same time these are enterprise which work very well in times of crisis.
Mainly it is about the communication! Communication is the key to the success in all respects and in every situation! The communion is the beginning of everything. Better individuals are educated and here I mean not only the formal education in the sense means- and or higher education, but education at all! It must be absolutely always so that the success only is possible if we have a university degree. I already have this topic another section devoted to some rows. It is rather a question that a man must understand that it can never know everything! It is always someone which somewhat knows what the,- he don’t know! So, which is honestly even opposite the first and most important step? It is important to understand that we also know not everything! It is only great help if we know where we this knowledge find what we need at a certain moment! This is in turn self-knowledge needed! Self-knowledge that I never know everything can! Here an example: an acquaintance of mine had many years ago an idea to establish a business in a particular industry. It was a company in the foam industry. It was necessary to find partners abroad and this was the first hurdle for him. He spoke no other language. So he came to me because he knew that I two speak foreign languages. After about a year the company on its feet was filed and works today! Means that we are honest itself towards and forget the “wrong pride” everything is feasible and achievable. The second step is necessary communication! Without communication is nothing done! Therefore, only the thought, the idea, then communication and after much work, hard work and sweat! These are the basic elements for success. This applies not only in business. The same criteria can we apply in private with same success! Communication is again the magic word. Not ROAR, scream, or even harder measures. Communications may also lively or even intensive. The sound can be increased times but it must remain a communication. As long as we talk, we will find a solution also ever again! No matter what is at stake! By communicating our quality of life is essential increased and improved. The communication is also listening! Hear we others to understand what he wants to say and can respond. Hearing we are another we even his questions understanding and this answers questions. Is equally important that we question also actually respond and how generally with a reverse come. Each answer, and this applies when children ask too. Even it is sometimes difficult to tens of or even hundreds of asks the answer our children. Communication is the most important part the emotional competence of but also of life at all. Everything is based interpersonal relations on! Are the interpersonal everything else works relationships intact, also. The better the interpersonal relations work, better work also the collective no matter what it is! Whether family, company, school. Enterprise completely indifferent!
Very long experts has rejected that emotional competencies with the economy only the slightest have in common. Research in recent years in the western part of the world show but that the emotional skills very well their place in the economy has. It showed that the emotional competences have more influence than previously thought. The latest figures show that the emotional competence up to over 70 % for the success is responsible! It is even that previously highly awarded then IQ while is important, as we the technical skills but without success are much less emotional competencies. Means the IQ and formal training course are basic milestone. Can the success we only develop and expand when we on emotional competencies attention give and give this area of attention as it this fact matches. Therefore I dedicate whatever some lines in this book this topic because it is indispensable to about this topic to write, or that it explain! It is simply too important for our understanding. I therefore hope with the following explanation of the main characteristics of emotional power to make really understand the whole.
Emotional Powers are which the area in recent years, even decades more and more importance attributed this absolute entitled. Because this topic is very complex and wide I will here which basic features list and explain briefly.
1. What are emotional competencies?
2. What they are necessary and important
3. How are these other necessary skills such as technical skills, intelligence and expertise?
Emotional skills are skills on capabilities given by nature like mind, understanding, on the learned through experience, the experience, develop and severity and is primarily in interpersonal relations obtain functioning together. As well as on relations to improve to strengthen also the synergy and the team and the leadership to form and to make better and more successful!
We means better the emotional powers understand, accept and apply the better we will work where whatsoever and succeed!
We have even the first answer; what are emotional competencies important and/or what are!
Emotional skills are important in family, in team building, primarily teamwork overall for the establishment of common goals in the corporate structure and in all other life situations where we with others people have to do. Of course comes this particularly the quality of individual to light and is therefore incredible important because everything builds on the individual!
In recent decades, the decision was taken in the western world, that the emotional competencies are becoming increasingly important for overall success. Regardless of what we are doing what position we occupy or what work and to what extent EC* on the success of influence. It firmly made clear that emotional skills for success in the average are approximately 67 % responsible. Even two thirds means of success will depend on the EC* from where the cognitive, technical skills and the expertise for the remaining third or 33 % of success responsible.
Here are of course smaller differences possible depending on the position and/or work. As has been made resistant, that in some specific situation the EK responsible even up over 70 % for success.
This was a knowledge which was decisions new to many previous but also a surprise if not even a shock brings. Therefore I will below the main features list and explain briefly what are emotional competencies?
As we always there and to do with people everywhere who are subsequent declarations useful. You may find below and think about your opportunities for and newly any necessary changes!
Principle we know that everyone is different! As always we can some characteristics that most occurrence list.
We have usually people with how:
Sanguinary = lively man with intensive temperament
Choleric = easily flammable, pity, angry
Phlegmatic = institution man, cool, all matter but boring
Analyst = believes nothing and nobody, checks all and everything, withdraw
With people with we will have to do it most the above characteristics and can we all communicate adjust in the future and/or make better. Even if we alone about this topic could write a book, I hope this information is sufficient to at least the approach to show recognizable and the diversity of people.
Now to the emotional skills and their main characteristics!
Emotional Expertise:
Aware its my / his own
What does mean “my self aware”?
EMOTIONAL AWARENESS
-THE UNDERSTANDING THE OWN FEELINGS AND THEIR CONSEQUENCES–
Means people with this capability
-know exactly what they feel (and more importantly) they know why they feel
-they understand the relation between what they feel and what they think, speak and do
-they are aware about how their feelings do work to him
-they are own values and goals by which they directed be beware
SELF-ASSESSMENT
One understands detailed, accurate self-assessment; how do I which my own sources own abilities and limitations.
Only after we detect, consciously recognize and accept that we can change. Changes make only we can alone but only after we recognize!
Means people with this ability are
-is own strength and own abilities aware
-reflexively, means that they learn from own experience
-open for response, new perspectives, constructive criticism, constant learning and extending of own knowledge and willing to itself tirelessly to work and to develop as being
-humorous on their own account and always a perspective
SELFAWARNESS / SELFESTEEM
Means “strong sense of own values and skills”, to know what I am and what I can!
NOT ARROGANCE!!
Means people with this capability
-represent yourself or an organization with confidence, are always present, wake
-express also unpopular positions and also accept “victim at right decisions“
-are able to make decisions and make decisions under pressure and in critical situations
LORD BE HIS SELF
SELF-CONTROL
.. .is the ability of celibacy and control of feelings and impulses, the our quiets can destroy
Means people with this capability
-go with their feelings, reflections, pulses and unrest very well to
-are always quiet, “in cold blood” and positive.” Also in Crisis situations
-think always clear, keep on concentration under pressure high level
GLAUBWÜRDIGKEIT/ VERANTWORTUNGSBEWUSSTSEIN
Means «honesty», «and responsibility for their own roles and responsibilities.
People with this important ability:
Credibility
-all actions are absolutely ethical
-that confidence on reliability and self loyalty built is
-confess own mistakes and oppose immoral acts
-even if it is unpopular represent their principle
Sense of responsibility
-do their jobs and keep states
-accept responsibility for achieving the objectives or goals
-are well organized, careful and self-critical
-to take responsibility for “failure”
INNOVATIVE / ADAPTABLE
Acceptance new ideas and perspectives and flexibility in responding to the various changes
People with these skills
Innovative
-find new ideas in the width of the sources
-find original solutions for incoming and new situations
-are making oriented
-accept new perspectives positions and are confident and proud
Adaptability
-accept the need and handle with easily the most difficult tasks
-have the ability to fit when responding to and/or when changing tactics based on the new situation
-consider events objectively realistically and flexibly
MOTIVATED
… be the desire for progress and/or satisfaction after excellence
People with this ability
-are performance-oriented, target oriented and meet the standards. The objective of
-bury challenging goals and take or accept “a calculated / calculable risk”
-minimize risk by collecting information and data to eliminate hence the uncertainties. Find the best way to complete the task
-are hungry to improve their own perfection
After we now who met most common properties have and it can detect, I hope to have given a milestone your quality of life to increase significantly. I at least hope enough information given to have, so that you understand that EC* in fact the most important is the link for the functioning of the human person and human kind in totally. The more we pay more attention to the purchase, the better we will function and the more successful we will be! It is in our privately Satisfaction and our luck recognizable! It depends on everything from the interpersonal relations from that of our understanding for others people and of understanding of others for us! We understand the importance are we going to do much easier us area and in the future in this waiting incredibly beautiful experiences for us! This, it is important to claim that we can harvest only what we saw! At the latest here is clearly that the emotional skills very important this absolutely right and play. It is all the more important that we understand this and accept but much more important is applying this in practice! Your fellow man and environment know to recognize it and thank!
* EC = emotional competence
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