Relations
Because we write on this website about sensitive topics, let us not around the subject of relations. It belongs certainly to the most sensitive and most complex topics. Totally indifferent whether it is this to a friendship, a love or any another form of partnership.
Basically every partnership based on trust, mutual interest, or common target or other similarities.
Consider a partnership closer, or that something deeper are we firmly authorities that it is really easy. One partnership is much more significantly more complex. Of course, the above are conditions necessary in a relationship but, there are some more,that we want to examine.
Is it because actually always how it look like? Or there are often within a relationship we so at first glance not discover things but with the time….came then the surprise to light!
Let us take a love-relation as an example;
What is love at all?
It is a fact, that such a relationship with the falling in love or sympathy begins! Now arises the question, how long the falling in love? How long is a man in love?
Hardly can find an exact response to this question.There are too many variables within this situation. So we leave it the falling in love not firmly some time to furnish take one. However, what then? What happens after declining the falling in love? We left the well-known love! Love is of course a huge scene! To love someone is probably the highest that a person can feel or experience! True, pure love are probably the most beautiful feelings which there and only right if they then also be reciprocated. There is hardly anything more beautiful in life! Only, as is seldom is the case. Usually it is often the case that instead of love, after the falling in love the habit is taken the place. Or even other interests. There do very complicated this a relationship can be, do we this situation wide and accurately discover. What happens if after falling in love, after we recognize that the partner / partner but not this is what we have presented to us. Who has the courage and the strength this relationship to stop? Very rare! Usually it is then case we find excuses and justifications, other to our cowardice to explain. This “cowardice” may also convenience; or laziness but primarily and usually is it to other interests. Namely, within the time which lasted the relationship interests have formed and installed certain habits. On the one we know that it incredible is to create habits difficult and on the other it is still essential to draw a harder various interests not in the case with the relationship. This no matter what kind of relationship is there! In usually the calculate begins these situations! And it is also usually then the laziness or convenience which us brings the relationship also still continue to run, even if we no real meaning in this relationship see. It is just easier to od nothing, or no mission to have. What we in such situations usually unaware, is the fact that us this behavioral huge brings pain is ready because, every day which we don’t make the decision suffers move or not hit and consistently enforce our self-confidence. Additionally you can more read under “decisions”. Ever longer we postpone a decision, the less strength we have for later and it is more painful for us. It is generally the case that be implemented any decision should and immediately! Means if they are come to conclude that a decision be taken and implemented it is essential to be that this decision immediately implemented is! Any hesitation or postpone nibble of our substance. Also is then often so that one of the other in such a partnership certain “weakness” discovered and it exploits mostly without shame! These are situations in which we often suffer as beings. It is interesting that people in such situations very often still back drag and virtually any more space give another to do! This can be as much go to the one in this case the “weaker” entirely the self-esteem loses and only exists! This is all of us a situation has seen or experienced. Only the question, how we handle such a situation to.
I will explain an own example here;
Some years ago I had a business relationship. Very closely expressed an acquaintance of mine had several ideas. One was from a company in a particular industry on the legs to make. His situation was, however, that he neither spoke a language accept his mother language and he no more quantities capital had. So I have the market analysis and have some ways found. The next step was to discussions under way now contact the possible future partners. After my acquaintance no foreign language speaks I was who led the discussions. Finally, after about a year we had a joint venture contract under roof and tray! It was founded a mixed company where the foreign partner 51 % of the shares held. Moreover the treaty envisaged that the foreign partner provides all machines needed to production and one appropriate amount of working capital. Thus the company could begin to work. In the autumn we began producing and back in out we had results which were more than exciting. So which was idea born by the foreign partner to purchase the shares. Only, who in a well-functioning company shares is this world sell? So it was my job to our foreign partners the business to make bad, that it for him as a partner not further looks interesting. Now, after about six months I had this objective achieved! I did it, that our foreign partners no longer were so sure in the investment and this was the time where we our brought idea on the table. After some discussions with our partners were so to sell the shares under certain conditions. The point but was that must handled the sale at a fixed time. It had to across the stage go before the balance sheet is created because the insight into the balance purchase will not work. I have this achieved and the transfer took place! Now, why this example really interesting is, is the following;
In this months of preparing the above transaction I had a few times so a funny feeling and wanted me several times with my friend at the table set to clarify the conditions between us and on the paper to the market. The fact is that my acquaintance repeatedly has succeeded it somehow to get that we had to do always somewhat differently.Then the acquisition was ultimately done, my acquaintance knew me no more! From one day to another. What I will put it, is not the badness of my friend, but the fact that I missed it, have to make a decision! I had signals, considerations in hull and fill! I have allowed everything to handle only my friend how it a decision suited to, just because I was too lazy or too convenient him take and to carry out. Is this not so much about the material loss! It is about the human value and “disappointment” I experienced. Because to be deceived, that is probably worst what a person ever can happen , I will here claim set I am not been fooled! I was only too easy or too lazy to make a decision! I had possibly fear to make this decision I shall discuss with my friend and this has then consequences. Before these consequences I had most fear and this is the main reason why people rarely appropriate decisions meet! While I can save very much me! Most importantly very much trouble! On the other hand, I have urged my friend, we put our relations on the paper and thus clearly regulate I would only my increase of them! In every way! Firstly, I had him to pushed, would I material value thereof and secondly, my acquaintance been thus disagreement, I had the former business relationship ended and had only benefits! I had my time in otherwise invested and I would not even about a year of transfer worked to ultimately held above the table. Therefore, make decisions is incredibly important and in relationships first right! The fears are probably one of the main problems in relationships! The fear before changes! What came then, or after? Here we have a very complex situation in which many factors play a role. Fear factory changes; our habits; fear of loss; it is ultimately then very much easier to do nothing and to take everything as it is! That we suffer this and sooner or later “go to reason,” that interested in probably none! Most of all ourselves! And this is the fact which give us most about thinking should whom this because, world if not let itself important his, ourselves? Who in this world is worry about our interests if not we ourselves? As long as we all this other leave, we are very literally! Although we naturally agree in a partnership to compromise need. Clear! But these compromises should and be compromise for mutually. A compromise which is only one side “is disadvantaged” is no compromise! It is however necessary that we understand that we protect our interests mainly because it will do no one but us! This we must be obviously even aware our and ready to take its decisions! I hear very often that people talk about very serious decisions! Now, how difficult is a decision? I am saying there is no serious or easy decision! There are only decisions! If I recognize that there are decisions the are easier to make than others because of one or other decision depends not so much! Is that really so? Usually depends on at each decision much material off! As long as the material is more important to us than our system, our dignity there is heavy and light decisions! At the moment we understand that every decision we as contributing resources and thus relies our dignity, we finally come to the conclusion, there is only decisions, any decision without exception brings benefits or other benefits! Every decision brings us benefits, we just recognize that much later! But in principle each decision brings us some advantage, if we are only prepared decisions to make and of course to set! Partnerships with compromises! Of course! However, as already above closer described a compromise is a compromise for both sites and can not penalize just one site. This is of course away from what position you take and how hard you your position represented. Are means as far, ready to give to get something. It is always, without exception always to give and take! This is a natural process! Nature exists on the basis of give and take! Would we nothing plants, would we…, no, not nothing reap! We would be have only weeds in our field. If we plant something, sow, then we know what we expect to reap exactly. This illustration sample is at every situation all life is because, from type to apply and take. I provides only the question what am I ready to enter for something to get? On this question each/each for himself should find an answer in each newly encountered situation. Think a moment in subsequent!
Each partnership is basically an interbank interest community! A man alone can achieve very much but two people can very much more! For example, it is for one alone very difficult to be parents. Together is an incredibly great experience. Therefore, a partnership can incredibly much give, luck, happiness, satisfaction but also very much suffering and bring pain. What it is only in your hand firmly set and decide, because it depend of your decisions! Each man for themselves! Take this as fact!
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